Sunday, September 20, 2009
Raising the lake level on teen sexuality
I really dislike the practice of taking photos by holding the camera at arms length and trying to get a good picture of yourself. And this weekend Samsung joined them rather that fighting them by creating a camera with video on both sides.
This is related in my mind to the ongoing discussion of teen sexuality and abortion.
Christians really feel like providing birth control is ceding ground to the enemy and abstinence is our only counsel.
The statistics on teen sexuality are not encouraging on the abstinence message. I have a deep sadness about the damage done to those who feel their popularity depends on being cool and being hooked up with a popular guy. I have a serious anger at any young man who sees his sexual exploits as a sign of accomplishment. I hope we can show enough acceptance to the young girls who become victims in this sad situation, (no, I will not change that word, the issue of whether sex feels good to all involved rather briefly or not, committed or not does not remove the burden that girls bear in this issue.)
I once knew a woman who had a shotgun wedding, as we called it in the south, and even though she and her husband has been married over 50 years, and even though the offspring of this union had accomplished enormous success in career....the guilt this woman was unable to resolve affected her most of her life, and something is wrong with that.
Sex, drinking and drugs, accidents are the stuff of youth, and somehow those of us past that stage need wisdom and compassion to deal with whatever happens, and a church that does not shun its affected teens. I learned a phrase from a terrific couple this summer when they spoke of the ups and downs of raising teens, particularly the downs...... "Its the page they are on....lets deal with it"